Today I got the coffee pot all set to go and forgot to turn it on. The other day, speaking on my cell phone while driving (hands-free), I realized I had missed a turn several minutes (and quite a few miles) after passing it. Another time recently, I struggled for a bit trying to find my car in a parking ramp I had never before used. Do any of these sound familiar to you? All of things happen for various reasons. Sometimes we may have a lot on our mind or we may be in the midst of a conversation. However, they are quite common and we typically do not fret about them. In fact, we often chuckle about these types of mishaps or moments of absentmindedness.
However, in my case, when these things occurred during my major depression, they were unjustified evidence that I was spiraling down, falling deeper into depression, in dire straits. I would perseverate on these mental lapses and turn them into something much larger than they were. This is one type of catastrophizing that can occur during depression. Catastrophizing is clearly not a healthy thought pattern and can be harmful to one’s mental health (even if not in the midst of depression).
Here are a few methods that may be useful in order to minimize, and hopefully end, the catastrophizing:
- The first step is to recognize when it is happening. This is not always easy, but very helpful. Once you recognize it, you can question it and, you will most likely realize that the incident you are catastrophizing is not a sign of spiraling down into a deep, dark depression.
- Question it. Having thoughts that you may be on the verge of getting fired? Ask yourself for the evidence of this. How was your last review? What evidence is there that your work performance is going down?
- Communicate with others. Share your thoughts with someone you trust to get the opinions from someone whose thought process is not compromised by an illness (depression).
- Analyze it. I’m not referring to scouring a great deal of data. Simply ask yourself if there are reasons, other than your illness, for your thoughts. If you’re concerned because you couldn’t find your parked car in a large parking lot, could it be that you’ve lost concentration because you are thinking about the upcoming meeting or presentation at work? Could it be that you were thinking of your to-do list for the day.
It is incredibly important to go easy on yourself. Remember that depression is truly an illness. It compromises your cognition, thoughts, and memory (just to mention a few of its many possible manifestations). Recovering from depression takes time and effort. The effort you put into eliminating catastrophizing will go a long way in your efforts towards recovery!
As always, I welcome and encourage comments to all of my posts.
Great post with great points! I am a shocking catastrophizer, I think depression and anxiety make us particularly susceptible to it, but I’m working on it!
Thanks for reading the post and for commenting on it! Keep working on it! Check your thoughts! Take deep breaths 🙂
Thanks again for the comment! Al
I’m feeling quite depressed at the moment and just feeling that by the time I can afford to retire I won’t be well enough to enjoy it – there is some evidence for this (financial and health wise as I have an eye problem). Any tips on how to stop?
This may be easier said than done, but I think it’s important to focus on what you do and have NOW. Do what you can to make your job as enjoyable as possible. Perhaps meeting with a financial planner would give you some “real” information based on your own finances and put your mind to ease. Any way to prepare for more eye issues that may help ease your mind? I wonder if others have suggestions to add? Thank you for reading my posts and for your comment!
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“Share your thoughts with someone you trust.” Someone, a close friend or family member … You mean someone who won’t grimace (TMI) or say, “Buck up!” or “Get over it”? Yeah, but no. 🙂
Definitely to someone who won’t grimace or say “buck up” or “get over it”. If that’s the response you get, if it is a close friend it would be worth sharing with them why that is unhelpful. Otherwise, I would ignore it….and move on to another trusted person. Some people just don’t understand depression and other mental illnesses. Thank you for reading the blog and for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate it! Al